It's a word that we jumble a whole bunch of feelings into: overwhelm, anxiousness, burdens, obligated, disappointed, sad, angry, unworthy.
We all experience it no matter how great or not great our current situation. The way we handle it is in how we see it.
What does stressed mean to you?
See if you can go below just stressed and understand what it actually means to us. It's usually about internal conflict, not necessarily the outside circumstances.
Regardless of the source, there are ways we can bring down the stress in our lives: becoming present with what we can control.
I wanted to offer three simple things to remember in order to make your every day stress a little easier to manage.
1. Slow down.
Before rushing, or reacting, take a breath. It's a rare occasion in our lives where acting before fully thinking something out is helpful. Stress can make us rush decisions. Take a breath. Drink some water. Get a snack. Take a moment to slow down - that's where our presence lies - in the right now.
2. Set intentions.
Setting intentions gives us a moment to really focus on what we are trying to get out of the moment, day, event, etc. When we are clear about our intentions in the moment, we are more prepared and less reactive. We look at how we want to show up, not on the expected outcome.
3. Have compassion for yourself.
We have limits to what can be done and we make mistakes. Those two characteristics alone mean that we are not going to be able to do as much as we want, AND we'll desire to do it all. Internal conflict ensues. Let's find more compassionate expectations. Be kind to yourself. Know that your intentions are what's most important and do the things that bring you the most joy when you can. Take time to care for your body and inner connection.
Three simple steps and most of us get tripped up in the first and give up. Set a reminder on your phone or just make 'slow down' a mantra. It's a choice, you can make it. It just takes a little choice.