Goal-setting. Why do we make it so hard? Often because we’re doing what we think we’re supposed to do or expected to do. We don’t really tune into what we truly want – because no one really ever told us that those bold ideas we have are for us to explore. Instead we were told Read More
Category: Personal Growth Tools
How can I love this?
When faced with fear, do you ever try to find a way to really love it? How about when faced with anger, sadness or shame? Can you find a way to love it? Let me ask you another question if you find these conflicting. Can you love someone else when they are experiencing these feelings? Read More
Is that Advice Helpful? Probably not.
Ever get advice that was intended well, and still is just, well, crap? We probably all have. Luckily we all have our own intuition about what is crap and what is helpful. Unluckily, we don’t always listen to ourselves. Even the best advice can be wrong. Hear me when I say this. Even my (your, Read More
Faking it ‘Til You Make It, or Just Wearing Masks?
Good advice or lending to the inauthenticity of our mask-loving culture? Fake it ’til you make it. Since the very first time I heard this saying, something inside me cringed and cramped. I have had bouts of depression and people would tell me, “You just have to fake it ’til you make it.” Every time Read More
5 Biggest Fear Myths, Or, Why Fear is Normal & Not in Charge
Fear. It seems like we often cave to it or deny it when we aren’t conscious. We want to shrink from the discomfort of feeling fear. It’s not a comfortable feeling. It’s not supposed to be. If you choose to invite shift in your life, or are seeking to grow in any way, you know Read More
Holding Space for Yourself and Your Feelings On a Bad
Even the most positive, happy-go-lucky people have bad mood days. Today, as I write this, I’m experiencing a wave of failure, disappointment and sadness. This flood of emotion that has become familiar and less harsh with time and curiosity. I used to fear this wave. I believed it would sweep me up and take me Read More
When positive changes feel like obligations…
Are your resolutions starting to feel like an obligation rather than personal benefits? It happens. Here’s my cycle. See if you relate: I am all rested and excited about making changes and really impacting my life. I make all the plans: sticky notes, calendars, tools to track my progress to the finish line. Day 1 Read More
The One Word that is Dis-Empowering You
You might think that coaches are beyond ‘triggers’ or emotional reactions. We’re not. In fact, I would even bet that in some instances we have more triggers than the average person because we’ve studied all the ways a person can disempower themselves in everyday actions. Words for example… there are way too many that could Read More
Scarcity and Abundance: Which way do you lean?
From Inviting Shift: One of the biggest factors in determining success, courage and shift is the perception we have between scarcity and abundance. Scarcity: insufficiency or shortness of supply; dearth Abundance: an extremely plentiful or over sufficient quantity or supply By these definitions, we may think that those who have more are abundant thinkers and those who Read More
Expectations (almost) Always Ruin the Journey
When we follow our heart or the call of our soul’s longing, we don’t always know why. If you are a goal-setter and achiever life me, it can be frightening to do something without knowing why or where I’m headed. If I know where I am going or what it’s supposed to look like, I Read More