Look, I know that no one loves to claim the title “martyr”, but the truth is many of us set ourselves up to be just that. If you have ever said or felt something like this: “I can’t trust people.” “I do everything for everyone but when I need support, no one shows up.” “Why Read More
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Letting go of stories with ritual
Listen: Or read: If it’s not data, it’s a story and the stories are what keeps us stuck Whether you are in conflict with yourself or others, the stories are what keeps us stuck. We know stuck. It can look like a lot of things. Some examples you might have experienced yourself are: Getting stuck Read More
The 1 shift that makes relationship conflict easier…
Listen: Or read: When we are in conflict with another person, it can feel like we are opponents. When that happens, our ego is looking at how that person is wrong and we separate ourselves from who they are. I would never say that. Why do they not understand my side? They are so ridiculous Read More
Trusting others: Why we don’t & How We can
Listen: Or read: “I just can’t trust people.” “People always let me down.” Trust: to rely upon or place confidence in someone or something Trust is perhaps the hardest thing in relationships. Ever notice “I love you” is so much easier than “I trust you”? Love is one thing, right? But trust… trust is a Read More
Holding Space: How to Be with People in Difficult Times
Listen: Or read: Most of us grow up without really learning how to be with uncomfortable feelings – whether that is our own or sitting with someone who is experiencing tough emotions. So it’s understandable that when someone is struggling, we often don’t know how to just be with them. In fact, you might be Read More
5 Ways to Love Yourself When It’s Hard
I know there are times that self-love feels like it’s unreachable. I’ve been there. I’ve just not felt lovable. And I probably had reasons and explanations why it wasn’t possible in the moment. Choosing love for myself just seemed, wrong. I bet you’ve felt it too. Maybe we feel like we made a mistake, we’re Read More
Self-Compassion is the Birthplace of Resilience & Confidence
Listen: Or read: If you are one of those people who thinks being nice to themselves will end in a lack of motivation or over-indulgence, this is especially for you. When I say the words self-compassion in a room full of people, I can literally see the inner conflict happening among some. While we know Read More
Choosing you: How we choose self-love
Listen: Or read: For a long time, I thought that if I had just accomplished enough, did things perfect enough, or looked right, I would get big, warm, fuzzy feelings of self-love. I just had to be proud enough of myself and sweep enough of my faults under the rug. In all my talking to Read More
Sometimes we forget to see the magic.
Sometimes the world feels like magic. Sometimes, it doesn’t. Ever notice? One day everything in the world seems magical and abundant and vibrant and then suddenly something happens and we lose sight of the magic and the whole world becomes that one thing. It reminds me of a story that Mark Nepo tells about stubbing Read More