When faced with fear, do you ever try to find a way to really love it?
How about when faced with anger, sadness or shame? Can you find a way to love it?
Let me ask you another question if you find these conflicting. Can you love someone else when they are experiencing these feelings? Ya. It's called compassion. Compassion for being in this human body with human emotions and limitations. We make mistakes even when we don't intend them. We hurt people. We are sorry. It happens to everyone. The questions is:
How can I love this?
It may seem absurd, and I stand by it. If I choose to love something (or someone), I can find a million reasons to do so. If I choose to see what I don’t like, I can find a million reasons to do so.
My focus determines what I see.
So instead of making fear, shame, anger, or sadness something we have to hate or relate to negatively, we can embrace it and accept it as a human norm. Even the uncomfortable emotions are normal. The least we can do is try to find a way to love ourselves through it. For me, it's in asking the question, "How can I love this?"
How can I love this?
Amazingly, this question has helped me through challenges more than any other. We must remember that the present challenges don’t appear to make us dislike life. They are there to make it sweet and sour and all the emotions in between. But we can still ask ourselves what there is to love. There’s good and bad to everything, even when it doesn’t lean to the direction we like, we can still choose to love the good aspects.
Gratitude and love can always lighten the load.
When life is feeling heavy as it often will, we must stop ourselves from focusing on the heavy and remember to keep our focus on what we want. One way is to be able to still grasp onto what’s good and what we can love about it. There are gifts everywhere. If we focus on those, it’s so much easier to love the present moment rather than struggling against it.
You will be challenged. If you weren’t, it wouldn’t really be shift, now would it?
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